Dating Psychos : the Samantha Fletcher story
Mikey 64 comments
Brisbane teenager Samantha Fletcher is not only being defamed on a web site called datingpsychos.com, she is also being blackmailed by the web site owner.
The first part of this story is about Samantha's plight, where an anonymous coward has created a profile in her name with some offensive personality traits.
Now I don't know Samantha or her history, and I do believe in freedom of speech. But I also believe that freedom of speech crosses the line when it is simply becomes slander or an outright lie for the purpose of bulling. Among all cyber-bullies, the anonymous ones are the most cowardice. If the person truly believed what they wrote on the 'psycho' profile, they would put their name to it and stand by it. But then that goes against the typical anonymous coward code of conduct.
Most curiously the person responsible didn't like the story aired on ACA tonight, and has added this comment to the page: "How fucking dare she make a complaint to our television program". Well if you believe in freedom of speech you should certainly believe in the right to defend yourself. You shouldn't cry just because your victim comes in with a defence strategy. Thinking about it further, that reaction does fit the profile of a bully, as they typically get the most satisfaction from victims that don't fight back.
Moving away from the cyber-bullying issue now, the second part of this story is about the web site administrators. They make it free and easy to post defaming and false information about anyone you please, but any victims who request the information be removed are being blackmailed with a $20 fee. And of course there is nothing stopping the cyber-bully from simply putting the profile back online. I know $20 isn't much, but it's the principal of the matter. Teenagers have enough problems dealing with real-life bullies without sites like datingpsychos.com 'promoting the cause'.
Creating an account only took me a minute. The scary part is when adding a 'psycho' to the database they have fields for the victims home and work phone numbers, email address, web site, and mobile phone, so anyone wanting to harass the victim can maximise his/her bullying potential. So I have added a psycho of my own - the Dating Psychos Administrators. Check it out here. I doubt they will blackmail themselves to get it removed.
If you are one of the administrators of the site, I have a message for you. You promote a site where cyber-bullies are given free reign to psychologically scar whom they see fit. I get it - freedom of speech - or in this case freedom of slander. What ever your reason doesn't matter. But you charge the victims to clear their name. You do all this and cowardly hide behind a domain mask so no-one will find out who you are.
You are clearly in favour of the bullies in this instance, and for that you have just made out annual 'Good, Bad & Ugly' poll for next quarter, to be filed in the 'Ugly' category. If you would care to clarify your position, feel free to leave a comment below.
Update 01: We may have succeeded in getting someone's attention over at datingpsychos.com. The profile I created and Samantha's seem to have disappeared. Both links still work but all information on the respective pages has been removed, although the comments remain. On the 'view psychos' page both are no longer listed. When I login it now says I haven't added any psychos. I think we've won this thing for now but I will keep a close on on things.
Update 02: The site admins were lame enough to allow HTML in both the profile page AND the comments field. I just made Samantha's page looks a lot different now :-) Here's a screenshot for prosperity just in case the admins remove it.
Update 03: If you want to hide any of the profiles on datingpsychos.com simply copy/paste this source code into any comment field on the site. You need to login to comment though.
Update 04: Further developments updated here.
/\/\@ximus
Wednesday 19th March 2008 | 09:07 PMNice. While there is nothing wrong with posting anonymously it is cowardice once you start stalking or bullying people. The site admins should be ashamed for the extortion tactics.
Awesome Wells
Wednesday 19th March 2008 | 09:12 PMThe first part started out as an unnecessary rant but you nailed it in the second part Michael. Kids think this sort of thing is a joke unless they're the victim.
Nice touch with the new psycho profile. I don't reckon it still be there this time tomorrow.
Ellen
Wednesday 19th March 2008 | 09:47 PMIronically you are helping to promote the site even though it's an unavoidable situation you are in. I understand. Reading some of the 'profiles' on the site it's clearly a haven for juveniles with poor gramatical ability. Except for the profile you put on...that's genius.
Rodney
Wednesday 19th March 2008 | 09:48 PMEveryone feel free to register your complaints with logiksoftware, their hosting company.
http://logiksoftware.com/contactus.html
/\/\@ximus
Wednesday 19th March 2008 | 09:49 PMNot sure if you know but theres a few comments on the profile you made
Alberto
Wednesday 19th March 2008 | 09:52 PMHave you considered Samantha might be a bad person?! Kudos for the anti-cyber-bully rant though. Go get em!
Rodney
Wednesday 19th March 2008 | 09:56 PMHaha read their disclaimer:
http://www.datingpsychos.com/disclaimer.html
Clearly written by some stupid kids. Not a single one of their "get out of jail free cards" has any legal standing, whatsoever. Such as their claim that libel you post on your site doesn't matter if you didn't write it personally and that copyright doesn't apply if you didn't mean to violate it...
Someone should just post a whole bunch of song lyrics in a profile up there and then inform RIAA the site is illegally displaying copyrighted material.
Alberto
Wednesday 19th March 2008 | 09:58 PM...in response to this comment by Rodney. LOL at the song lyrics idea.
Keeper
Wednesday 19th March 2008 | 10:18 PMI live near Samantha and she apparently knows who posted the original story on her. I will contact her tomorrow and then I will contact the other party at a time and place to suit myself and have a little party with them.
Rodney
Wednesday 19th March 2008 | 10:20 PMI will draw people's attention to their web hosting provider and specifically the log in page at said provider.
http://www.logiksoftware.com/myaccount.html
You will note this is the *exact same login html code* as used on datingpsychos.com, with a different CSS.
This implies datingpsychos is either written by the same people who run logiksoftware - or logiksoftware wrote this product for a client, in return for profit. Either way, they are partners in this site.
So, with that in mind, I present you with the registered owner of the domain space:
J-Dog Communications, Jeremy Johnson, 27662 Aliso Creek Rd #10-213, Aliso Viejo, 92656, United States
- Who every said the internet was anonymous, boys? Have fun, with the shoe on the other foot...
...in response to this comment by Keeper. Hi Keeper. Send her this way if she cares to throw in a comment. I have just found out something interesting about the site. More on that later :-)
CT
Thursday 20th March 2008 | 12:54 AMEveryone is an anonymous badass on the internet, until you register a domain name.
Jim-Just a Guy
Thursday 20th March 2008 | 01:03 AMReally does any 15 year old need to endure something like this. Teenagers already have enough social anxieties to keep their heads spun. Something like this is designed to be mean and then to charge $20 to take down an entry is extortion.
Looking forward to update Mike.
Jim-Just a Guy
Thursday 20th March 2008 | 01:05 AMI really should click the links then leave a comment. Her information is gone but the comments are still on the page. Including Mike's comments. Nice job sir.
Update: We may have succeeded in getting someone's attention over at datingpsychos.com. See the updates at the end of the article.
Kelli
Thursday 20th March 2008 | 06:23 AM...in response to this comment by Mikey. How did you do that!? Rustylime:1 Cyberbullies:0
Well done!
Gwen
Thursday 20th March 2008 | 07:42 AMHow about sharing your code for us who don't understand html?
...in response to this comment by Gwen. Here you go Gwen. Copy and paste the code in https://rustylime.com/media/file/code.txt">this text file into the comment field of any page on datingpsychos.com. Change the text bits in the code first.
Gwen
Thursday 20th March 2008 | 08:11 AM...in response to this comment by Mikey. Thanks a bunch
Damian
Thursday 20th March 2008 | 01:46 PMAs a person watching ACA I was disgusted at the fact that Ms. Fletcher used the weight of the television program to undermine the legal system.
As the first person to recreate the entry, I would like to say that I did it to show that the internet is not controllable. And that by simply making a domain such as samanthafletchersucks.com would do the same thing. One could also spread the same original information over every social networking site, on as many rss comment feeds, forums etc. as possible and it would still be there when people googled her.
It is unfortunate that the Internet is so uncontrollable and most of the time you can write any thing you please, I sure hope that it never happens to me and that Ms. Fletcher can sleep in peace.
Damian
Josephine
Thursday 20th March 2008 | 07:35 PM...in response to this comment by Damian. The internet may not be controllable but it is manageable as the guys here have proved with their little hack that hides. I think you've missed a significant part of the story being the site is charging victims to have the defamation removed.
People will always slander others online we know but charging people to have slander removed is tantamount to blackmail. It shows they are in favour of cyber bullies. If the service had any morals, they would be charging 20 bucks for the cyber bullies to use the service and make it free to have the slander removed. Datingpsychos are partaking in cyber bullying themselves with this regard.
It's just lucky there are cyber-bully defenders like the guys here who can help if they can.
Anke
Thursday 20th March 2008 | 08:34 PM...in response to this comment by Davo. That would be taking it too far but I like the way you think.
Ian Olson
Thursday 20th March 2008 | 09:12 PMThats some mighty big kahoonas u have. Expecting retribution?
Revenger
Saturday 22nd March 2008 | 10:44 PMHave a look at the profiles - I was bored and sat down and cut and pasted hundreds with what you said to do. I became a little creative :-)
revenger
Sunday 23rd March 2008 | 05:12 AMDidn`t take them long to change th profiles whe I suggested the site manager had HIV - funny abut that.......
Rubble
Tuesday 25th March 2008 | 12:41 PMhttp://who.is/domain_information-com/datingpsychos.com/
gives info on the domain reg owner...
Inc. phone #: +1
that number is showing as unpublished, but it is a mobile number (provider is sprint).
Anonymous
Tuesday 25th March 2008 | 10:20 PMI saw that story on ACA and felt real sorry for Samantha for having to go through that awful experience.
Rubble
Wednesday 26th March 2008 | 07:04 AMThis "J-Dog" is a bit of a Dil...
check out this profile
http://www.datingpsychos.com/view_psycho.html?psycho_id=1079
there is some very nasty stuff about this girl, obviously defamatory and leaves the site wide open to a lawsuit...
BUT... i put some comments on there in support of the girl (dont know her, but suspect whats written is nonsense)
and the site owner deleted my comments...
then yesterday someone else put a comment on which simply said "grow up, all of you"
and the site owner deleted that persons comments also, but interestingly enough, left all of the slanderous and defamatory comments, so yes, this site is all about promoting and encouraging bullying...
their site IP is registered to a-plus.net
the registrar is godaddy.com
maybe a direct complaint to either of these would help?
Rubble
Friday 28th March 2008 | 08:28 AMwell, im just amazed. I reported a similar site to the datingpsychos called "playersandpsychos.com"
to their webhost, midphase.com
i suggested the webhost could be pulled into a defamation claim if someone on the site took it further. I suggested the site promoted bullying and racism, not to mention an open forum for defamation.
this morning i got this reply :
"Hello,
I understand your concern in this matter, however, here at Hosting Services we do not see this type of page to be a breech of our TOS. In order to have content such as this removed from our servers, we must be presented a court order to do so.
Matthew Berry
Technical Support Manager
Hosting Services, Inc.
1-866-MIDPHASE x225"
he "understands my concern" but is not concerned enough that his own company may be pulled into a defamation lawsuit or that hundreds of victims are being cyber-bullied..
hmmm.... doesn't say much for this company does it...
datingpsychos are using one of aplus.net ip's so i have reported it to them, so far they have not even acknowledged my email...
seems that even the webhosts condone this type of behaviour... they use the first amendment as their protection... but i don't think the first amendment allows for defamation or racism?...
bumblebee
Tuesday 6th May 2008 | 10:49 AMhi a friend of mine has her profile up on this website and it is causing her quiet some distress. we are not good at IT related issues, does any code exist that we can use to delete her profile?
We tried holding down a key for about 30 seconds, but that just moves the profile over and you can still see it if you scroll across. Any help would be appreciated.
Tuesday 27th May 2008 | 12:01 PM
In the process of doing a museum show & checking the web on what kind of write ups took place for the event, I came across my name, address, everything ... this creep has been stalking me, I changed my telephone number ... everything just about. Then they started stalking my mother & father who have been divorced for forty years via my parents telephone number. I told the stalker if you come near my house, family, children, I would do what's necessary to protect them. With that much said, Nigerian scam artists & other strange people began contacting my email. I called the person Justin James who returned my call with a real juvenille outlook on how to deal with the fact I might file a lawsuit.
Usually people like him lose. I know if I was a psycho I would be on a greyhound bus with a rusty machete going straight to the nearest bus stop but unfortunate enough for him I deal with reality like a "BIGGER BOY".
Good work Justin James that's all I can say. I know you have made your momma proud with the hard work you do. Maybe you can grow out of cyber infancy & get something going for you that is constructive. It's a big world out there for you to exploit, I mean explore. Remember Justin James reality will always be stranger than your cut & paste fiction. If you play the Beatles "Nowhere Man" backwards you get "Nam Erehwon".
...in response to this comment by . Dude, your so uncool. I told you what button to push on my website to retract information you feel is causing you stress. You are totally unfair to me. If you want to file a lawsuit you ... well that's just fine. You should underst my mother is very wealthy & we can afford a better lawyer.
If you can't afford the paypal account transaction, get a money order & check so I in turn will remove you from my site. If you don't have the money, well you aren't being removed from my site. I don't care if you are a thirty something man because the same goes for the twelve year olds ... their parents pay to have their kids comments removed. You know what, I haven't been caught, I don't intend to, so until someone tells me I'm wrong for collecting money from underage kids regarding slander, its just business as usual.
Fuck You Rusty Lime,
J Dog - Justin James
Jorgey
Tuesday 3rd June 2008 | 04:45 AMA great man once said. " Hey better to have love lost then to live with a phsyco for the rest of your life " But I like a chick whos crazy nothing like the joys of violent sex :)
Alberto
Tuesday 3rd June 2008 | 05:44 AM...in response to this comment by J Dogged. "You are totally unfair to me."
My heart bleeds for any idiot who exploits minors.
"You should underst my mother is very wealthy & we can afford a better lawyer"
Still living at home with mum? Ah gee. That explains the juvenile behaviour and moronic attitude. My best guess is you're about 14 years old? One day you're going to look back at your behaviour and see what the rest of the world already sees - that you're an idiot with the intelligence equal to that of a lump of clay.
"You know what, I haven't been caught, I don't intend to, so until someone tells me I'm wrong for collecting money from underage kids regarding slander, its just business as usual."
Proof that you're a tool. Just because you don't intend to get caught doesn't mean you wont.
...in response to this comment by J Dogged. You are wrong for collecting money from underage kids regarding slander.
There some one said it now knock it off.
Jake
Tuesday 3rd June 2008 | 08:44 AM...in response to this comment by J Dogged. You are truely a modern day hero mate.
Let me know next time you're in Australia so I can liberate your testicles and sell them on eBay!
Ian Olsen
Tuesday 3rd June 2008 | 08:47 AM...in response to this comment by J Dogged. You are a deluded fool. I challenge you to find a single person who agrees that what you are doing is morally right. Maybe your mum can help?
Gwen
Tuesday 3rd June 2008 | 08:56 AM...in response to this comment by J Dogged. You're just a dumb kid who doesn't have a clue. Hiding behind your mother LOL. Exploiting kids makes you a sick perve.
Rodney
Tuesday 3rd June 2008 | 09:31 AM...in response to this comment by J Dogged. I love the irony that you're having a cry because people are slandering you... the very "service" you offer to people.
You might think what you're doing is cool, Gay-Dog, but the reality is, we've all seen what a terrible coder you are and how blatantly simple it is to exploit any code you write. And we've got a long list of your "sites" and "customers".
So basically you're just a pathetic try-hard and the entire World now knows it. Literally hundreds of thousands of people have now read all about what a piss-programmer you are.
Still, judging by your creative grammar and spelling, it's no surprise that you struggle with basic concepts.
As for not getting caught "yet" - don't worry, you will. And all your Mummy's money won't save you...
Gwen
Tuesday 3rd June 2008 | 09:48 AM...in response to this comment by Rodney. Beautifully said
...in response to this comment by Rodney. From what we've seen, he comes from the 'copy/paste and fingers crossed' school of programming, which we have all seen is prone to simple and sever exploits. What I don't get though is why no-one has taken the site down when the SQL exploit still exists. My guess is he doesn't know what that means or he still doesn't know the exploit is there or he doesn't know how to fix it. For those who missed it:
https://rustylime.com/show_article.php?id=1631
Just checking now, yes the exploit is still there.
Ern
Tuesday 3rd June 2008 | 11:13 AM...in response to this comment by J Dogged. Hahahahha! Why am I not surprised you fit the physiological profile of a mummy's boy.
Verbal
Tuesday 3rd June 2008 | 12:08 PMMom! Those guys are picking on me! MOM!!!!
Jake
Tuesday 3rd June 2008 | 12:21 PMCan you make your lawers kiss my boo boo...
Vincent
Tuesday 3rd June 2008 | 03:48 PM...in response to this comment by J Dogged. Wow what a big sissy! Doesn't mind people taking shots at his victims on his site but someone takes a shot at him and he cries like a sissy. Boo fricking hoo.
Nate >.>
Wednesday 4th June 2008 | 06:47 AMWow, I can't believe I missed this article.
Everything I have thought about saying has already been said, so well, by Mikey and Rodney.
Anything you want Rustylime to do Mike, we're behind you.
Matthew H
Wednesday 4th June 2008 | 07:43 PMI've seen the site and I'm appalled. What's happening about getting it taken down?
I'm not scared of any of you here. Me & my mom have more money than any of you & if you want to sue me I dare you. I see a lot of you talk big but nobody can stand up to me, if I want underage kids on my site, who's going to stop me? I'm J Dog, I'm white & I'm rich. I know tons of MMA fighters that will kick your fucking asses. You know my name, number, my address, my photo but all you are cowards. I'll cut any of you up.
b.cox
Thursday 19th June 2008 | 08:38 AM...in response to this comment by . man, you're such an idiot- your personal info. is already online via YOU.
johnny rocker
Sunday 22nd June 2008 | 12:32 PM...in response to this comment by b.cox. Hmmm ... That guys info is online because he was collecting shoes to be sent to Afghanistan so kids can have shoes to wear, I think his point was he didn't want his personal information on a site run by some dipshit crackhead like yourself as well as crackheads like yourself googling stupid shit.
You are a crackhead aren't you?
Is this the moron that runs the kiddie site? Maybe this is the stalker the guy was talking about. That's why your writing right, because you are either the stalker that he refers to, the owner of that bullshit website, maybe you're the scumbag that wrote up the profile for Samantha Fletcher.
I know if you wrote something about my son, daughter, dog, cat, goldfish, I'd come down from Canada & wheel barrel your ass around.
I don't have to because I know you will be heading to jail soon & their will be some tall, dark sugar daddy to wheel barrel your ass around the jail cell, showerstall, wherever.
Pete
Sunday 22nd June 2008 | 09:16 PM...in response to this comment by b.cox. You sound like a real fucktard, this about an underage kid in Australia. So why would you want to research other people on this thread, call them idiots when this is not what even the thread is about. If you want to feel some complacency try some other thread to play games with. Just make sure you ask your mommy.
Paul G.
Wednesday 2nd July 2008 | 07:35 AM...in response to this comment by . After perusing through the site and recently learning of an old friend unfairly listed ( I googled her name), I came to a realization and it prompted me to write concerning the people posted on the site and those who posted.. there are many people who were wronged ,treated really badly and unfairly.That is obvious.As sophomoric as it seems,this site offers them an easy option to vent their unfortunate circumstance with the offender and attempt to re- gain some sort of control and sense of dignity. Like the saying goes.. " Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned". We hear too often about a wife/woman/mistress/other woman( most often it is the female,but many times male) who was innocently targeted, poorly treated,cast aside and then had her/his character defamed. Unfortunately,it's a perennially popular subject/theme of movies, books, poetry, and art throughout the ages. She is labeled unstable or a bitch if she stands up for herself, and attempts ,in vain,to seek justice.But 9 times out of ten, the offending lover gets away with the offense, leaving the victim portrayed like a "stalker" that the poster mentioned above. So many times,the man gets off scott-free esp. if he is cunning enough to deny involvement at all and convince others the victim was at fault.. Look at Bill Clinton. There are millions of dishonest, untrustworthy bullies out there who use the victim as a scapegoat to avoid being chastised and their transgressions discovered by their spouses and associates.
This type of stigma must be stopped. The offenders should be exposed and stopped, but many times it is not the case. The man/woman/victim who suffers and fights back very often ends up wearing the 'scarlet letter' . To me it is very unfair. I wish for the women/men that they find healthier partners; I know they are out there. Cheaters never change. Just my opinion.Remember,there always two sides to every story.-I know my friend has her side of the story to tell-Paul
Sun
Tuesday 8th July 2008 | 05:55 PM...in response to this comment by Paul G.. Sounds boring, thanks for being so sensitive, what happened to the story of Samantha Fletcher.
"Scarlet Letter" ??? Sounds like you are on meds watching Oprah reruns.
A man sounding sophmoric, ho hum what boring lives those googling their friends names to write silly stuff. Do you say I have to go to the little boys room when you use the potty? Maybe you say I have to go the powder room to take a tinkle.
Simon
Wednesday 23rd July 2008 | 04:15 AM...in response to this comment by johnny rocker. I know that guy from 20 years ago when he was beating the shit out of people after shows and stealing shit from my friends, and he attempts to present a 'humanitarian'face,i.e., sending shoes to Afghanistan, while screwing people over like his family, acquaintances, and even his wife. He cheats on his wife,mentally, physically, and emotionally abuses people, juggles with several women/girlfriends at once who don't know each other and sleeps around and has been extremely violent.His parents have a restraining order against him. He's no hero.To me and my friends, he's a Dr. Jekyll and Mr Hyde. He's deceitful and manipulative.He has victimized many, many people, and I feel incredibly sorry that his kids have a psychopathic father like him. That chick was no stalker, she had found out what a deceitful liar he is. I am better friends with her than him, because I know his true face.Using this facade as a 'humanitarian' is all a ruse to look good, but people have no idea what a creep this guy is. Don't believe his bullshit.It's a shame that people do. He's living a lie and people don't get it. There are many people who stay away from this monster. I sympathize with Samantha Fletcher.
a bigger man
Wednesday 23rd July 2008 | 04:32 AM...in response to this comment by . you're nothing but a "sa gi kun"
Chuck
Saturday 26th July 2008 | 11:20 PM...in response to this comment by Simon. Wow, sounds like you are one of those skanky girls he was with.
If what you say is true & what he says is true.
Maybe you are the skank that's stalking him.
I thoughthis was about the Samantha Fletcher story.
Maybe you should go back to posting on the datingpsychos.com website were your insane commentary is provided soapbox, bubbles, psychiatric medicine & all.
Keep on stalkingin the free world!!!
bete noire
Thursday 31st July 2008 | 06:31 AM...in response to this comment by . married men who cheat,lie and steal are scumbags
setting the record straight
Wednesday 6th August 2008 | 04:38 AM...in response to this comment by . a stalker?? hardly!! she was lied to and treated like dirt! skanky?? open your eyes, she's gorgeous!! strong?? you bet!!
voiceofreason
Saturday 20th September 2008 | 02:42 PM...in response to this comment by . WHEN YOU SAY THE WORD "sociopath" most people think of serial killers. But although many serial killers are sociopaths, there are far more sociopaths leading ordinary lives.Sociopaths are people without a conscience. They don't have the normal empathy the rest of us take for granted. They don't feel affection. They don't care about others. But most of them are good observers, and they have learned how to mimic feelings of affection and empathy remarkably well.
Combine this with a sociopath's efforts to blend in, and sociopaths go undetected.
Because they go undetected, they wreak havoc on their family, on people they work with, and on anyone who tries to be their friend. A sociopath deceives, takes what he wants, and hurts people without any remorse. Sociopaths don't feel guilty. They don't feel sorry for what they've done. They go through life taking what they want and giving nothing back. They manipulate and deceive and convincingly lie without the slightest second thought. They leave a path of confusion and upset in their wake.
Apparently it has little to do with upbringing.They could be from any kind of family. It is partly genetic, and partly mystery.
But researchers have found that the brains of sociopaths function differently than normal people. And their brains function in a way that makes their emotional life unredeemably shallow. And yet they are capable of mimicking emotions like professional actors.
Sociopaths and psychopaths are the same thing.
Sociopaths don't have normal affection with other people. They don't feel attached to others. They don't feel love. And that is why they don't have a conscience.
1. Do you often feel used by the person?
2. Have you often felt that he (or she) doesn't care about you?
3. Does he lie and deceive you?
4. Does he tend to make contradictory statements?
5. Does he tend to take from you and not give back much?
6. Does he often appeal to pity? Does he seem to try to make you feel sorry for him?
7. Does he try to make you feel guilty?
8. Do you sometimes feel he is taking advantage of your good nature?
9. Does he seem easily bored and need constant stimulation?
10. Does he use a lot of flattery? Does he interact with you in a way that makes you feel flattered even if he says nothing overtly complimentary?
11. Does he make you feel worried? Does he do it obviously or more cleverly and sneakily?
12. Does he give you the impression you owe him?
13. Does he chronically fail to take responsibility for harming others? Does he blame everyone and everything but himself?
And does he do these things far more than the other people in your life? .
They want to win. If they are in business, it is becoming rich and defeating competitors. If it is sibling rivalry, it is defeating the sibling. If it is a contest, the goal is to dominate. If a sociopath is the envious sort, winning would be making the other lose, or fail, or be frustrated or embarrassed.
A sociopath's goal is to win. And he is willing to do anything at all to win.
Sociopaths have nothing else to think about, so they can be very clever and conniving. Sociopaths are not busy being concerned with relationships or moral dilemmas or conflicting feelings, so they have much more time to think about clever ways to gain your trust and stab you in the back, and how do it without anyone knowing what's happening.
One of the questions was about boredom. This is a real problem for sociopaths and they seem fanatically driven to prevent boredom. So boredom is a constant problem for sociopaths and they have an incessant urge to keep up a level of stimulation, even negative stimulation (drama, worry, upset, etc.).
There is no known cure or therapy for sociopathy. In fact, some evidence suggests that therapy makes them worse because they use it to learn more about human vulnerabilities they can then exploit. They learn how to manipulate better and they learn better excuses that others will believe.
Given all that, there is only one solution for dealing with a sociopath: Get him or her completely out of your life for good.Healing a sociopath is a pointless waste of your life. That is not your mission.Summary Of Sociopaths
1. They make you feel sorry for them.
2. They make you feel worried or afraid.
3. They give you the impression you owe them.
4. They make you feel used.
5. Sometimes you suspect they don't care about you.
6. They lie to you and deceive you.
7. They take a lot from you and give back very little.
8. They make you feel guilty (and use that to manipulate you).
9. They take advantage of your kindness.
10. They are easily bored and need constant stimulation.
11. They don't take responsibility but place blame elsewhere.
Lauren.
Wednesday 19th March 2008 | 08:59 PMhaha. Gee. That's really funny. People are stupid.
"Like omg! Wow! I can write bitch and slut on the internet but I can't put my name to it."
Aren't those the best types of people, yeah? Damn it annoys me.